Archive for the ‘Loveability’ Category
What is Love?
A Conversation with God
Five More Keys to True Love
Some Important Questions to Ask Yourself
6. Is this love or am I in sacrifice?
There are two types of sacrifice: unhealthy sacrifice and healthy sacrifice. One is based on fear and the other on love. Knowing the difference is a key to knowing how to love and be loved.
Over the years, I have counseled people who tried to use unhealthy sacrifice to save a marriage. It appeared to work at first, but love and dishonesty are not good bedfellows. I have seen lovers try to play small in a relationship so as to heal power struggles and avoid rejection. I have seen children get ill in a desperate attempt to heal their parents’ relationship. I have seen business leaders nearly kill themselves for their cause. Unhealthy sacrifice is often well intentioned, but it doesn’t work, because it is based on fear and not love.
Healthy sacrifice is a different story. To be happy in a relationship, you have to be willing to sacrifice fear for love, independence for intimacy, resentment for forgiveness, and old wounds for new beginnings, for instance. Above all, you have to stop giving yourself away and learn how to give more of yourself. You give yourself away when you are not true to yourself, when you play a role, when you don’t speak up, when you don’t ask for what you want, when you don’t listen to yourself, and when you don’t allow yourself to receive. The key is to remember that whatever you are trying to achieve with unhealthy sacrifice can also be achieved without it. Continue Reading
A Prayer to Heal the Pain of Separation
And How to Recognize the 3 Ways that Separation Manifests in Our Lives
Think about it!
It is impossible to feel wholly connected to life and be depressed. It is impossible to experience pure oneness and have anxiety. It is impossible to join unconditionally with someone and be in fear. It is impossible to be with God and in hell.
Separation is Hell
When you are tempted to fence off a piece of the whole and call it “self,” “mine,” and “own,” the price you pay for these acquisitions is to feel estranged, separate, and disassociated from the whole field of creation. Everything now feels outside “you,” including happiness, love, peace, Heaven, and God. The word hell in Old English means “fence” or “boundary.” Continue Reading
What is Mirror Work?
An Introduction to Louise Hay's Famous Exercise
This practice has two parts to it. It takes about 15 minutes to do it, and the benefits will last a lifetime.
The one piece of equipment you need is a mirror. Any mirror will do. Make sure you give it a good polish before you begin. You are about to meet the most important person in your life.
Remember, your relationship with this person (namely you) is very powerful—it influences your relationship with everyone and everything.
Let’s Begin
Be sure you are sitting comfortably.
Look into the mirror. Look into your eyes. Inhale deeply.
Say to yourself these three words: Life loves you
And then exhale.
It’s good to keep breathing! Repeat this ten times. Notice your response each time. Pay attention to the three languages of response: sensation (body messages), feelings (heart thoughts), and thoughts (mental commentary).
The Surprising Secret to Forgiving Others
How to Learn to Forgive and Begin Healing
My own early efforts at forgiveness didn’t work very well.
I could forgive, but I couldn’t forget.
Deep down I knew that forgiveness must be better than that. Over time, I gradually changed my mind about forgiveness in a way that you might not expect. Instead of focusing on forgiving others, I focused on forgiving me. Continue Reading